Friday, August 29, 2014
Friday, August 15, 2014
This week, thousands of LGBT and ally athletes descended on Cleveland and Akron for the 2014 Gay Games. The Gay Games are an international sporting and cultural event held every four years. The Games launched in 1982 and offer a safe environment for LGBTQ competitors. The Games invite participation from all athletes and typically about 10% of participants are non-LGBT, often friends and family who participate to show their support. I had the opportunity to attend the PFLAG Cleveland monthly meeting, present at the Game Change conference, and cheer on PFLAG Cleveland’s bowling team as they took the gold in the social division.
PFLAG Cleveland regularly attracts 40 people to its monthly support meeting. As the field manager for the Central Region I’ve always admired how this chapter reaches out to the community and on Tuesday I had the opportunity to attend this special support group. It’s a true example of the love and support a chapter can provide to the community. People in attendance ranged from those feeling the nervousness of attending for the first time to those praising PFLAG for the support they’ve received for years - some have been attending since the early 1990s. The chapter also welcomed many guests who were participating in the Gay Games - people came from Arizona to El Salvador to Russia. We shared stories, laughed and helped support each other through the long process of coming out. PFLAG Cleveland was started by Jane Daroff and her son 29 years ago. Imagine all of the people they’ve helped along the way.
My tour of the Games continued on Wednesday at the Game Change Educational Conference. The conference came together through collaboration with PFLAG Akron, CANAPI (Community AIDS Network/Akron Pride Initiative), Jewish Family Services, Gay Community Endowment Fund of Akron Community Foundation, The University of Akron, Federation of Gay Games, and GLSEN North East Ohio. I presented a workshop session on Cultivating Respect: Making Schools Safe for All Students and I participated in a panel with 5 other influential members of the LGBTQ community to talk about changes in the LGBTQ community since Stonewall. The panelists ages and experiences ranged from a young lesbian woman who attempted suicide at an early age to an 83 year old transwoman who served in The Korean War. We were all asked to talk about how the LGBTQ community has affected our lives. We shared our different experiences and remarked that despite of our different paths, we’ve all experienced highly enriched lives because of the LGBTQ community. One panelist talked about how she found PFLAG after a suicide attempt and how it saved her life to be part of a supportive chapter. Another panelist talked about how his mom was one of the founding members of the PFLAG Akron chapter and he was so proud about the support his mom provided to others through PFLAG.
paid off as they edged into first place by a few points. I felt so much pride to work at PFLAG after my experiences this week at the Gay Games. As they played the national anthem and PFLAG Cleveland donned their gold medals, I thought about how lucky we are in this country to change our culture, change our laws, and embrace the LGBTQ community.
Friday, August 8, 2014
Becoming an Eagle Scout was a major moment for Tessier.
“It was important for me to become an Eagle Scout because I believe in the values that Scouting upholds: being helpful, trustworthy, loyal, kind, brave, reverent,” he said. “It is Scouting’s highest honor and would be the culmination of over 10 years in Scouting. I was also inspired to be an Eagle Scout because my older brother, Lucien (who is also gay), is an Eagle.”
Up until January 1st of this year, openly gay teens were banned from the Boy Scouts. At that time, that policy was changed, although the ban on gay scout leaders remained in place.
That policy hasn’t changed. And sadly, that means that Tessier, who last week turned 18, has now been forced to leave the scouts.
This policy banning openly gay scout leaders infuriates many, including PFLAG member Felker, who complained about the policy to the Los Angeles Times earlier this year, saying, “On August 4th, [Pascal’s] an Eagle Scout and has the highest honor. August 5th, all of a sudden, he’s no longer good enough to be a Boy Scout?”
Now Tessier himself has penned an open letter to the head of the BSA, Robert Gates; the letter has been published in Time Magazine and online.
In it, Messier says,
Mr. Gates, only you have the power and experience to bring an end to the unwarranted, unjust and un-Scout like ban on gay adults. Every day that you do nothing, more boys and parents struggle with their place in Scouting, in their communities and in their families.
Not long ago, Mr. Gates, you were instrumental in the repeal of the military’s ban on gay service members, telling the U.S. Senate in February 2010 that, “The question before us is not whether the military prepares to make this change [to allow gay service members], but how we best prepare for it.”
Openly gay adults will eventually be allowed in Scouting, Mr. Gates. As support for equality continues to grow, Americans will soon demand it. The question before you, then, is not whether the ban should end, but how many more young people like me will be a victim of your failed leadership if you do nothing.
Click here to visit Time.com and read the entire letter from PFLAG son Messier.
Keep up the good fight, Pascal; PFLAG has your back!
Friday, August 1, 2014
I had the pleasure of attending the Second Annual NSA Mid-South LGBT celebration on June 26 in Millington, Tennessee.
The keynote speaker was Master Chief Tim McVeigh, the first person to win a case against Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.
|Shown in the photo with Kathy are CSCM Dwayne Beebe-Franqui,|
his husband Jonathan Beebe-Franqui, and Master Chief McVeigh
Thursday, July 24, 2014
Last Saturday night, just as the sun set on the horizon, the excitement on the PFLAG Tampa float and among the marchers was over the top. We were so ready! We could see movement in front of us – the lights from emergency vehicles and motorcycles, then the car lights from the male and female grand marshals. As we started to move, we realized that, as the organizational Grand Marshal of the largest Pride parade in the Southeast, we were the very first float and that ahead of us, on the streets of St. Petersburg, Florida, 170,000 people awaited to cheer us on! We screamed in anticipation as our float lit up, jolted, and started to move!
At the head of our entourage was the 10-foot PFLAG Tampa Grand Marshal banner that had been given to us by St. Pete Pride as winners of their competition to pick this year's Grand Marshal. Behind the banner four students from the Trans+ Student Union at the University of South Florida, who are attendees at our meetings carried four flags: the Pride rainbow flag, the Bisexual flag, and, in a statement to be extra-inclusive of the T, we flanked them with TWO Transgender flags.
Behind the flags, came our lit-up float, belting out “We Are Family” over blaring loudspeakers. The 35'-foot-long float was a surprise gift to us from St. Pete Pride. It was lit and decorated - all we had to do was add our own branding and riders. We took out the thrones and added a 5' square PFLAG logo made from petal paper, along with other decorations adhering to our theme of “Love Wins.” Our branding purposely left off the word “Tampa,” and used PFLAG only, since we knew many of the votes came to us from people who had family members who had been helped by PFLAG chapters across the US. Following the float were marchers who were tossing out 30 gross of beads, which disappeared about halfway through the parade. Bringing up the rear, was the Care with Pride “One Mother's Love” banner.
All told, about 60 PFLAGers, decked out in light-up, heart-shaped deely-boppers, glow necklaces, Love Wins T-Shirts, Care with Pride T-Shirts, and special Grand Marshal beads greeted screaming, waving, cheering throngs who seemed to be making the effort to make eye contact and smile in order to express gratitude for the difference PFLAG made in their lives. Or maybe they just wanted beads! Each float-rider carried a sign custom-tailored to express their love for a specific loved one: gay son, lesbian daughter, 2 moms, etc. Our message was clearly, “We love you,” and their message was, just as clearly, “We love you, too!” Can you imagine?! To a person, we all said it was everything we imagined it would be, and then some!
Despite blistering heat, the festival the next day attracted 50,000 people, many of whom were drawn to our booth where we proudly displayed our Grand Marshal banner. We saw old friends from PFLAG meetings who made a point to seek us out, as well as many other LGBT organizations who were anxious to join us in various advocacy efforts.
This year is going to be a busy year! Continuing the theme of Love Wins, we offered, for a small donation, buttons that said, “I Love My Gay Son, I Love My Transgender Spouse, I Love My Lesbian Cousin,” etc. in just about every LGBT designation. We displayed our Care With Pride
posters (as we did on the float as well), and gave out the coupons from our booth. We also enclosed coupons in our goodie bags which had smiley-face bubble necklaces attached, so they were eagerly grabbed up. We have been supporting the efforts of a new chapter of PFLAG Pinellas (the county in which St. Petersburg is located), and a sign-up sheet for them at our booth garnered many signatures. Being Grand Marshal certainly gave us all the positive exposure we had hoped for!
In addition to the parade and festival, we also had opportunities to address the public, and meet & greet at social events leading up to the weekend. We were pulled on to the stage at at several Pride events, including at the Fine Arts Museum which included former governor Charlie Crist, and attended a Pride-sponsored Mary Lambert concert. The executive director of St. Pete Pride always introduced us by pointing out that PFLAG was marching in gay pride parades before they were called pride parades. We were extremely happy with newspaper interviews that always picked up our theme of love and acceptance. Of the newspaper interviews, the most interesting to us was the one by our conservative hometown paper, the Plant City Observer. Up to this time, a search on their website for the words 'gay,' 'lesbian,' bisexual,' or 'transgender' returned no results. Now they have one!
And this young reporter really understood our message!
In a typical PFLAG story that PFLAGers have come to experience more and more often, a neighbor whom we know quite well, stopped our car on the street this morning to talk to us. He said he had seen the newspaper article, and wanted to tell us how much he liked it. It turns out his son was gay, and had died of AIDS. We had no idea. Now we have a connection with him, and hopefully we have given him a voice. PFLAGers do that everyday when we publicly share our stories and our love.
Thanks, PFLAG! The message we received loud and clear is that you are changing lives!!
Click here to see a full gallery of beautiful images of PFLAG Tampa at St. Pete Pride!
Friday, July 18, 2014
The Hillsborough County Human Rights Ordinance was first passed in 1988. It currently includes protections against discrimination because of race, color, sex, age, national origin, religion, disability and marital status. The inclusion of sexual orientation among the protected classes was first proposed in 1989, added in 1991, removed in 1995, and proposed again in 2000. Currently, eight other Florida counties and 17 cities, including Tampa (which is in Hillsborough County), prohibit employment and housing discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Nationally, 21 states and the District of Columbia prohibit employment discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation and 16 states and the District of Columbia prohibit employment discrimination on the basis of gender identity.
The amended Hillsborough County Human Rights Ordinance will support economic development by helping to recruit and retain a talented workforce. According to the Center for American Progress, employment discrimination also decreases retention rates, impairs job performance and productivity and limits access to consumer markets. Among Fortune 500 companies, 91 percent extend workplace protections on the basis of sexual orientation and 61 percent on the basis of gender identity.
The draft amendment will have to withstand two public hearings and BOCC votes to become law.
Friday, July 11, 2014
Carol Mannion, president of the SGV API chapter is quoted in the piece, which includes a discussion of why the chapter was created in the first place:
Click here to watch a video and hear more from Carol in her own words.
Carol Mannion, who’s Filipino-American, created the group because she felt people would be more open and honest if they met with others who had similar backgrounds."And then being vulnerable in your own language really gives you that courage," says Mannion.Carol is the parent of a gay son, but said something was missing when she attended a support group with a mainstream American crowd."I know they totally understand what my process is as a parent of a gay son, but there’s a part where there’s a disconnect with them understanding what it feels like to be a minority."Her group holds sessions in English, Chinese or any number of languages in order to help people feel at ease. In addition, they'll facilitate a translator for people who do need help coming out to their parents.But most importantly, members can share their experiences and offer advice to other people worried about how their own parents might react.
Then, you can click here to read and hear the full piece from KPCC, as well as listen to and read the first two parts in this important and interesting series.
Friday, July 4, 2014
I am a civilian employee of Hill Air Force Base. When I received an e-mail in March of this year with an invitation to participate on a committee for the first ever Pride Awareness Month on a stateside military installation, I raised my hand high!
Our committee, a mix of civilians and military members, was excited to get started and got busy planning three events to bring Pride to Hill Air Force Base. I volunteered to be committee chair for an LGBT Community Resource Fair, which would bring helping agencies from the community to provide information and assistance to the airmen and families serving here.
The event was held on 11 June and was a huge success! With the help of the committee and our wonderful LGBT community we had 29 organizations come to base for four hours. They set up booths, handed out materials and chat with about 130 military and civilians employees. It was an honor that even the Base Commander came out to show her support during this event.
There were to other events held this month: One was a Pride Night celebration on 21 June, where we showed the Family Acceptance Project short film “Always My Son” with a panel discussion afterwards. We also had various LGBT performers playing music, reading poetry, performing improv and performing in drag.
On 24 June we sponsored a luncheon where Kristin Beck was our special guest speaker. While Kristin happens to be a transgender retired Navy Seal she is so much more! She spoke of Equality...not just for the LGBT community but for each and every one of us! We are all deserving of love and of loving ourselves! We all deserve to be accepted for just who we are! The take away for me was this....."If not me? Who? If not now? When?" Thank you Kristin! You inspire me! This event was even covered in the local news!
As President of the PFLAG Ogden chapter I am overjoyed to have been a part of bringing LGBT awareness to Hill Air Force Base and hope to continue this as a tradition for many more years to come.
Friday, June 27, 2014
Yesterday I was witness to what I can only describe as a miracle. At noon, my fellow PFLAGer Jan Nichols called me to share the fantastic news that Judge Rogers overturned Indiana’s ban on same-sex marriage. Shaking and crying, I drove down to the Marion County City-County Building with some friends to witness history.
Upon arrival, I saw a line snaking out of the Clerk’s office all the way down the hall. Hundreds of couples - some with children, some in wheelchairs, some dressed in suits and ties, some holding bouquets of flowers – were standing patiently on line, waiting to get married.
Inside the Clerk’s office, I met many of my friends. As soon as one (or more) couples got married and emerged from “the chapel,” a huge cheer went up from the crowd. Everyone was a friend today!
In the hall, a man and a woman were cutting pieces of wedding cake they had brought over. Another woman was handing out flowers to each waiting couple. There were a few heterosexual couples waiting to get married, and some of them were clearly unnerved by this turn of events. But they were in the minority and nothing could stop the love and joy that permeated the air.
Beth White, who is the Marion County Clerk, and her assistants, did a fabulous job of keeping the wheels turning. Beth performed many of the weddings, but so did some clergy and other folks who were able to perform marriages. Everyone wanted to help.
At the end of the afternoon, I headed over to Broadway United Methodist Church for a celebration sponsored by Hoosiers United for Freedom. The attorneys and plaintiffs in the lawsuit were there, as were hundreds of others who worked so hard to bring this day to fruition. Quite a few PFLAG members were in attendance, some of whom I hadn’t seen in a long time, and we all hugged in united joy.
I was engaged for 2 1/2 years. To me, that was an eternity. My fiance was in college in Ohio, and we had to wait until he graduated to get married. But I cannot imagine what it must be like to have to wait years - in some cases 20 years or more - to get married to the person you love. The couples lining the hall were polite, pretty quiet, and really not whooping and hollering – maybe they, like many of us, could not quite believe that this day had really come.
I do know, however, that yesterday history was made in Indiana. When I woke up this morning, I cleared the fuzz from my head and remembered that yes, my same-sex friends CAN get married now. I found a big smile forming on my face. When I went onto Facebook and saw that more friends got married early this morning, I had tears running down my cheeks. In a little while I’m going back downtown to help out at the Clerk’s office.
I am proud of the role all of the Indiana PFLAG chapters played in this victory. There are members who came before us who paved the way, and for them I am so very thankful. PFLAG National also gave us so much support, and I thank them too. I am so happy that the parents’ voices were heard.
Even though we have won this battle, there are more to come. But for now we will enjoy what is in front of us. And to my heterosexual friends - please don't take the fact that you can get married so easily for granted. You are lucky that there are almost no barriers to you being able to walk into a clerk's office for a marriage license. Heterosexual privilege still exists until we tip the scales towards Full Equality.
Friday, June 20, 2014
PFLAG Utah came together for the 2014 Salt Lake City Pride Parade with the Salt Lake City, Ogden, and Ephraim chapters participating. This year we marched with a beautiful rainbow float built by the Ogden chapter and colorful PFLAG shirts designed by the SLC chapter.
About 70 PFLAG members marched together with homemade signs to show loving support for our family members, friends, and the entire Utah LGBT Community! It was a fabulous day with so much love and acceptance everywhere we looked, with parade attendance estimated at 35,000.
Wherever there's Pride, there's PFLAG! Thanks for the report Kathy.
Friday, June 13, 2014
Take a look at the wonderful memories made in the photos below! And then be sure to send us YOUR Pride photos and writeups to share on the blog, by emailing them to email@example.com.
Friday, June 6, 2014
Friday, May 23, 2014
Even a major technical glitch--the Razoo site going down--was turned into a positive when Razoo and Bolder Giving chose to extend Give OUT Day for a full extra 24 hours! Everyone benefited from the extension...and some even won prizes from Give OUT Day headquarters!
PFLAG Jersey Shore not only raked in the donations--$2775!--but they also won a $100 golden ticket from Give OUT Day!
Other participating chapters included:
- PFLAG Collingswood: $955
- PFLAG Napa: $770
- PFLAG Lady Lake: $840
- PFLAG SLC: $145
- PFLAG Columbia-Howard County: $188
- PFLAG Roanoke: $195
- PFLAG Tallahassee: $175
- PFLAG Brunswick: $110
- PFLAG Boulder: $65
- PFLAG Rehoboth Beach: $60
- PFLAG Silver City: $50
- PFLAG Richmond: $155
- PFLAG Benton-Franklin: $150
- PFLAG Yuma: $195
- PFLAG Dayton: $65
- PFLAG Charlotte: $200
- PFLAG Houston: $1000
- PFLAG Ogden: $20
- PFLAG Oklahoma City: $25
- PFLAG Butler County: $25
- PFLAG Spokane: $35
- PFLAG Tampa: $60
- PFLAG Greensboro: $25
- PFLAG Cincinnati: $50
- PFLAG North Jersey: $100
- PFLAG Phoenix: $10
Our chapters earned just over $5000 collectively - way to go, PFLAG!
We hope that next year we'll have even greater chapter participation...and perhaps we can get some insider tips from our friends at PFLAG Jersey Shore about what made their Give OUT Day so successful.
Congratulations to all of the chapters who participated!
Friday, May 9, 2014
|Terrie Vorono c. Adam Bouska/NoH8|
Friday, May 2, 2014
|Dear Abby accepts the inaugural |
Straight for Equality Award from
Executive Director Jody Huckaby and
then-Board President John C. Cepek at
the 2007 PFLAG National Convention
Since then, Dear Abby has made reference to PFLAG numerous times, recommending that her readers who need support and education turn to us for that help. Whether it's a need for transgender resources, or a parent who needs help with supporting their newly out child, Dear Abby knows that PFLAG is a go-to in communities across the country.
Her support of PFLAG, in fact, earned her PFLAG National's first-ever Straight for Equality award, which she received in person at the 2007 PFLAG National Convention!
"There is a chapter of PFLAG about two hours away from your community, located in Lubbock. You can find it online at pflaglubbock.org. It can provide information to help you build bridges of understanding with your family."
Friday, April 25, 2014
Clearly the call was heeded, the votes came in and PFLAG Tampa has been voted by the Tampa Bay community to be the organizational Grand Marshal of the 2014 St. Pete Pride parade! That's right: this year, one of the largest gay pride events in the nation, St. Pete Pride, will be led by the largest family and ally group in the nation—PFLAG! This parade is the largest in the Southeast, attracting upwards of 120,000 people.
PFLAG Tampa is a great choice for Grand Marshal, given how active the group is in the community. The chapter holds two monthly support groups, at different locations, to support both sides of Tampa Bay. Speakers to these meetings have included Big Brothers Big Sisters of Tampa Bay, the ACLU, the Homeless Coalition of Hillsborough County, and speakers focused on transgender issues.
To add to the excitement, the chapter has learned that they will get a float to be decorated as they wish. Chapter leaders and members are grateful to all who voted, and looks forward to sharing photos, videos, and more from the big event!
Friday, April 18, 2014
Two chapters have garnered some positive press in the last couple of weeks, and we're excited to share their efforts with all of you.
First, we have an interview with PFLAG Hastings (Nebraska) on adding gender identity and sexual orientation to the state's employment non-discrimination policy. http://www.khastv.
Friday, April 11, 2014
|Cathy's son, Tyler, and coverage of|
their court case in the headlines
We had an important presentation last night at our PFLAG support meeting. Cathy James, a Florida same-sex adoption advocate, talked about her experiences getting on her wife's son's birth certificate as a second parent.
In 1977 Anita Bryant successfully campaigned to repeal a Miami ordinance banning anti-gay discrimination. Further, she helped convince the Florida legislature to pass a law that entirely barred gays from adopting children. In November 2008, a state circuit court struck down the law and on September 22, 2010, Florida's Third District Court of Appeals unanimously upheld the decision. This alone is not enough to allow a same-sex couple equal rights in parenting. An adoption simply transfers all parental rights to the adoptive adult.
Fortunately, Florida allows second parent adoption which lawyers were able to use to help families like Cathy's. In the process, Cathy discovered that people as highly placed as a lesbian Police Chief, and a room full of judges that preside over adoptions did not know that the ban had been overturned in 2010! Cathy's main point these days is to let gay and lesbian people know that they can adopt in Florida.
Click here to read coverage from the local paper, including comments from chapter members!
Connect with PFLAG Tampa on Facebook and follow them on Twitter (@PFLAGTampa).
Friday, April 4, 2014
|Courtney Watson , Catherine Hyde and |
Mary Kay Sigaty at Howard County
2014 Volunteer of the Year Awards
Ceremony on Tuesday April 2nd.
She says she didn't listen to her child when he, at the age of 4, told her that something had gone wrong in her belly and that he was supposed to be a she. She did not understand transgender or gender identity until NPR educated her 11 years later.
Today, she speaks and trains on transgender understanding and sensitivity. In her day job, Catherine is director of Online Services for the national nonprofit Enterprise Community Partners. As a volunteer, Catherine serves on the Howard County Human Rights Commission, the Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Advisory Council for PFLAG National as well as PFLAG National’s Board of Directors and as Mid-Atlantic Regional Director. She is also on the Public Advisory Board of Gender Rights Maryland.
Congratulations, Catherine, from all of us in your PFLAG family across the country!
Friday, March 28, 2014
Outstanding graduating high school seniors and college/vocational students are encouraged to apply for the 2014 scholarships offered through PFLAG South Orange County. Monetary awards of $2,500.00 are available to residents of South Orange County between the ages of 17-24 who identify as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, intersex, or queer, and to straight allies who have directly supported LGBTQI youth and/or the LGBTQI community.
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
We are so excited to have been nominated again this year as one of three finalists, in the Organization category, for Grand Marshal of the St Pete Pride Parade. St Pete Pride is one of the largest Pride events in the southeast and is the largest Pride event in the state of Florida. Being named a Grand Marshal of this event is among the highest honors bestowed by Tampa Bay’s LGBT community. There are three Grand Marshal categories: Female, Male and Organization. Three people or organizations have been nominated for each category, with the public deciding which among the three becomes a Grand Marshal. The voting will run through the end of March with the winners announced mid-April.
Now we need your help in getting the word out and the votes in. Anyone anywhere can vote. The competition is tough, as we are competing with organizations with significant name recognition. Imagine Florida PFLAGs leading the St Pete Pride Parade! - That would energize a crowd that already gives us a VERY enthusiastic reception. And what a great way to promote PFLAG!
Please share the voting website, http://www.stpetepride.com/prideweekend/grand-marshals/ as widely as possible and maybe PFLAG will be at the front of the parade!
Can you help?